when guys get older
i've never really thought about getting old. i guess i was one of those who believed that men, like wine, gets better with age.
but somehow, as the months go nearer to the day i turn 3 0, i can't help but hear things around me, inside my head, everywhere...
a former colleague of mine wanted to set me up with his friend saying i should dip my feet again on the dating pool since "di ka na bumabata." my ex-girlfriend thanked me for my birthday greeting by saying "thanks Kuya Jon." that lingering thought from my former boss who said i should marry and have a child while im still in my 20s so that when the child grows up, i can still take care of them instead of the other way around.
those thoughts are all around me...
but the prevailing thought in all of this came from my parents, who for the first time, gave me their 2 cents worth regarding my personal life. they said: try to go for a serious relationship. don't just settle for dates and playing the field. you are not getting any younger!
yes, somehow, a guy gets old and everybody notices it... if and only if he is still single and unattached.
i never really given much thought about settling down. i kept on saying that i can settle down with somebody anytime. its not a matter of when (or how old i am when i do it) but a matter of settling down with the right person.
but when you have gone through the process of meeting the (supposed) right girl, loving her truly, then getting engaged; you are bound to look for the same thing the next time around. you may have failed the first time around in planning to spend eternity with one person, but definitely when the wounds heal, you will long for that feeling again.
this is the reason why inspite of all the voices i am hearing, im staying still and not rushing into things. because for me right now, i won't be wasting any of my time fooling and playing around like i was 2 years ago (before i met the supposed right girl). i've been there, done that.
i'd rather be with someone i enjoy spending time with even when the time is spent just talking about even the simplest of things. i'd rather spend time with someone i can be myself with, no pretentions, no hidden agendas. i'd rather be with someone that has the makings of being the one but without the pressures of getting there abruptly. i'd rather be with someone that makes my heart feel young, with the feeling so light, riding the waves of bliss.
getting to be 30 in a couple of months somehow signals that indeed, im getting older. but at that age, when your heart knows what it wants, knows the virtue of patience, and understands the beauty of loving truly; guys like me then, never grow old.
but somehow, as the months go nearer to the day i turn 3 0, i can't help but hear things around me, inside my head, everywhere...
a former colleague of mine wanted to set me up with his friend saying i should dip my feet again on the dating pool since "di ka na bumabata." my ex-girlfriend thanked me for my birthday greeting by saying "thanks Kuya Jon." that lingering thought from my former boss who said i should marry and have a child while im still in my 20s so that when the child grows up, i can still take care of them instead of the other way around.
those thoughts are all around me...
but the prevailing thought in all of this came from my parents, who for the first time, gave me their 2 cents worth regarding my personal life. they said: try to go for a serious relationship. don't just settle for dates and playing the field. you are not getting any younger!
yes, somehow, a guy gets old and everybody notices it... if and only if he is still single and unattached.
i never really given much thought about settling down. i kept on saying that i can settle down with somebody anytime. its not a matter of when (or how old i am when i do it) but a matter of settling down with the right person.
but when you have gone through the process of meeting the (supposed) right girl, loving her truly, then getting engaged; you are bound to look for the same thing the next time around. you may have failed the first time around in planning to spend eternity with one person, but definitely when the wounds heal, you will long for that feeling again.
this is the reason why inspite of all the voices i am hearing, im staying still and not rushing into things. because for me right now, i won't be wasting any of my time fooling and playing around like i was 2 years ago (before i met the supposed right girl). i've been there, done that.
i'd rather be with someone i enjoy spending time with even when the time is spent just talking about even the simplest of things. i'd rather spend time with someone i can be myself with, no pretentions, no hidden agendas. i'd rather be with someone that has the makings of being the one but without the pressures of getting there abruptly. i'd rather be with someone that makes my heart feel young, with the feeling so light, riding the waves of bliss.
getting to be 30 in a couple of months somehow signals that indeed, im getting older. but at that age, when your heart knows what it wants, knows the virtue of patience, and understands the beauty of loving truly; guys like me then, never grow old.
posted by jones at 6:35 PM
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