the "bad boy" persona

what is the fascination of women with the so called "bad boys"? i mean, you hear it a lot; on TV, in bars, in the office,... everywhere!

and what is the thrill for men to be a "bad boy"?

looking into it, i guess it is the same for both men and women. for men, we like that we are "bad" since it connotates someone who throws caution to the wind, the devil-may-care or me-against-the-world attitude, the notoriety that comes with it all.

for women, its roughly the same. they love someone who can do it all, when he wants to, where he wants to. they love the notoriety that comes with being with someone with the devil-may-care attitude. most of all, they probably equate being bad to be someone that would protect them anytime.

but what about the "good guys"? those people who are natural romantics, who adore women. those who shower their women with time, affection, and care.

women certainly appreciate the "good guys". however, of equal fascination for them is the mystique of the "bad boy".

there was this one guy i knew who always wanted to be thought of as a bad boy but somehow can't get by the good guy image. with women whom he just met in bars, he was a bad boy. but when he fell in love, his natural side prevailed... the good guy side. his was an identity crisis. he wanted to be someone he's not.

its a good thing this guy watched his favorite show ED on cable. a re-run of one episode shows Ed wanting to be the "dangerous" guy (aka bad boy) because the girl of his dreams, Carol Vescey, is always attracted to those kind of guys.

in the end of the episode, Ed had this to say to Carol:

i know why you like dangerous men. you don't like them because they're dangerous, its actually the opposite. dangerous men are safe. with them, you always know how it ends...

its a good thing that guy i knew watched that particular episode...